I know of someone, who is coming in to quite a bit of money soon. Funny how she talks about family in all the wrong ways. While her child was living at home she did nothing but complain about how they did nothing to help how they were slacking in school and their grades were not up to par. When they decided they wanted to go out of state to college she wasn't happy with him going out there. She griped and complained about how they needed to grow up but she never did things to allow him to grow up. She always seems to be bailing them out of something. She gets all sanctimonious about how they need to be doing this and doing that. Turns out they left home not necessarily to attend college but for other reasons. They left so they wouldn't have to deal with the parents.
Friday, September 16, 2011
Thanks to a friend
Earlier today I was reading a friend's blog about her situation with her ex and the kids and I found myself thankful for where I am in life. Josh and I met in July 1999 and have been together since. Some times it's hard to believe it's been 12 years. I should be thankful Josh likes his women a little on the crazy side. We dated on again off again for 4 years before both taking orders that eventually took us both to Guam. December 2002 six months after I arrive on Guam Josh and the crew of the USS San Francisco arrive on island. Josh and I got married March 10, 2003 and its been one heck of a roller coaster ride ever since. God knows our relationship isn't perfect and we have had our fair share of blow ups and threats of separation and divorce and disagreements about how to parent our child. Josh and I each have our own ideas about what it means to be a parent. I am more interactive with Eric on a regular basis and Josh kind of keeps his distance because he feels as a parent he can't be both friend/playmate and disciplinarian. I can see and understand the logic in that but at the same time I don't want Eric to be so afraid of his father that he can't approach him and talk to him about things. He should be looking up to his father and wanting to be like his father and not be afraid of his father. Maybe he should be concerned that his father will be disappointed in his choices and actions but not afraid that his father will hurt him or hate him.
When I met Josh he was a hard drinking, hard living sailor who thought no harm no foul as long as he didn't do harm to anyone else. I stood by him even though I didn't quite agree with how he was living. He has recently had to make some choices to change the way he was living because it did have an effect on others around him. His faith and his belief in God has strengthened and he's made changes to better himself and by extension to better the life of his family. We've had some rough patches in all the time we've been together but they are smooth by comparison to others. I guess some would say we've lived a charmed life. We've been lucky enough to have a solid life. We've worked hard. I'm able to stay home and care for my son full time because of decent money management. We have three vehicles fully paid for and in decent condition.
Currently Josh is attending law school out of state full time and we can afford it because of a scholarship and his GI Bill benefits. I'm still able to stay home with Eric instead of having to go out and work full time just to make ends meet. His retirement pay covers two mortgages, car insurance, and other bills and still leaves funds for me to grocery shop when needed. The payment he gets for housing allowance from his GI Bill goes directly to pay his credit card. We are working with much less then he was making when he was on active duty but I'm doing well with making it work to our benefit.
I have so very much to be thankful for. We are truly blessed to be where we are in life. I know there are people who are better off and worse off then we are. The reason our situation is stable is because we are both very cautious about how we approach things and we put our faith in God. If He brings us to it He will bring us through it.
When I met Josh he was a hard drinking, hard living sailor who thought no harm no foul as long as he didn't do harm to anyone else. I stood by him even though I didn't quite agree with how he was living. He has recently had to make some choices to change the way he was living because it did have an effect on others around him. His faith and his belief in God has strengthened and he's made changes to better himself and by extension to better the life of his family. We've had some rough patches in all the time we've been together but they are smooth by comparison to others. I guess some would say we've lived a charmed life. We've been lucky enough to have a solid life. We've worked hard. I'm able to stay home and care for my son full time because of decent money management. We have three vehicles fully paid for and in decent condition.
Currently Josh is attending law school out of state full time and we can afford it because of a scholarship and his GI Bill benefits. I'm still able to stay home with Eric instead of having to go out and work full time just to make ends meet. His retirement pay covers two mortgages, car insurance, and other bills and still leaves funds for me to grocery shop when needed. The payment he gets for housing allowance from his GI Bill goes directly to pay his credit card. We are working with much less then he was making when he was on active duty but I'm doing well with making it work to our benefit.
I have so very much to be thankful for. We are truly blessed to be where we are in life. I know there are people who are better off and worse off then we are. The reason our situation is stable is because we are both very cautious about how we approach things and we put our faith in God. If He brings us to it He will bring us through it.
Friday, September 9, 2011
Spending time with the love of my life
On Friday last week I drove down to Naples FL to spend time with my love while he enjoyed a long weekend. I left here around 9 AM and got down to him by about half past 4. We ended up doing dinner at IHOP instead of out with his henchmen on Friday night. IHOP turned into an experience. We got there and they were so understaffed that the wait staff was bussing tables and doing dishes and no manager was on premisis, so it took Josh getting up and letting someone know we were at the table before we got service. Poor waitress was so stressed out and felt so bad that we were waiting. Took a while to get our meals as well because the kitchen was under staffed. It was nuts, any way we both finally got our meals after waiting over an hour in an almost empty restaurant and what happens? Lightening strikes a transformer and knocks out the power so I get to eat dinner in the dark. On the upside dinner was free that night!
Saturday we got together with one of Josh's buddies and his fiance for a trip to the beach. What a great location it was, nice calm area for Eric to swim and splash around. They also have it set up as a dog park and Eric enjoyed playing with the four legged fur balls! That evening was group dinner out. Incredible lobster at a pound and a half for $20 couldn't beat it.
Sunday we kind of got ditched so Josh and I went to the flea market in the area and walked around for a bit. We went into an upscale dress shop because Josh saw a dress he thought would compliment me both in color and fit. I don't think he realized the caleber of the dress shop when he had me try the dress on. Apparently he really liked the way the dress looked on me and the way I looked in the dress because he had no hesitation about buying the dress even after he found out it was almost $200. He gets out his credit card to make the purchase and the sales lady is a total flake, isn't sure how to install a fresh roll of paper in the credit card machine, so Josh helps her and has the paper inserted the wrong way so when she goes to run his card and print out the reciept it doesn't print out on the paper. Turns out the ink only shows up on the one side of the paper. Of course she's not fluent in how to use the machine so after they get the paper turned around and test to make sure it's printing she doesn't know how to pull up the transaction we made for the dress and confirm that the transaction went through and was pending payment. So we paid for a dress and walked out of the shop without the dress (situation resolved). Asked Preston if he'd be willing to keep an eye/ear on Eric while he slept so we could go out for a date night. While we were out we ran into one of the couples at one of the clubs and had a great time. Was nice to be out and about town with my sexy husband.
Monday was a hang at the dorm kind of day. Hang out at the dorm for a while and get a call to head over to the apartment complex of one of Josh's buddies cause they have a community pool and we can all hang out. We get there, only there about half an hour and the other two couples totally bail on us and tell us to call them then they don't answer phones or their front door. We head back to the dorm have dinner with Josh's roommate Preston and just hang out.
Tuesday I have a chance to hit the school bookstore and buy a shirt for myself and a shirt for my mom before Josh heads to class. Thankfully he only had morning classes and we were able to spend the afternoon together hanging out and I was able to go to one of the local nail salons and get my nails done. The person who worked on my nails tore my fingers up and didn't clean up the areas where I had lifting. Just pissed me off didn't give him much of a tip and it cost me $25 to get the work done where as here at home for a fill and repair it would have cost me $20 and the job would have been done correctly. Snuck in some ColdStone Creamery while I was down there as well. Josh is located in a great area, right up the road from him is Walgreens, Publix, Blockbuster, chinese food, italian food, Subway, Starbucks, a dentist office, and a decent size hospital. What I need to check on in the area is a public park/play area for Eric.
Life is truly good and God has truly blessed us that we are able to be in two separate living spaces and make all our bills and not have to worry about being so excessively in debit that we will be paying off loans for the next 30 or 40 years.
Saturday we got together with one of Josh's buddies and his fiance for a trip to the beach. What a great location it was, nice calm area for Eric to swim and splash around. They also have it set up as a dog park and Eric enjoyed playing with the four legged fur balls! That evening was group dinner out. Incredible lobster at a pound and a half for $20 couldn't beat it.
Sunday we kind of got ditched so Josh and I went to the flea market in the area and walked around for a bit. We went into an upscale dress shop because Josh saw a dress he thought would compliment me both in color and fit. I don't think he realized the caleber of the dress shop when he had me try the dress on. Apparently he really liked the way the dress looked on me and the way I looked in the dress because he had no hesitation about buying the dress even after he found out it was almost $200. He gets out his credit card to make the purchase and the sales lady is a total flake, isn't sure how to install a fresh roll of paper in the credit card machine, so Josh helps her and has the paper inserted the wrong way so when she goes to run his card and print out the reciept it doesn't print out on the paper. Turns out the ink only shows up on the one side of the paper. Of course she's not fluent in how to use the machine so after they get the paper turned around and test to make sure it's printing she doesn't know how to pull up the transaction we made for the dress and confirm that the transaction went through and was pending payment. So we paid for a dress and walked out of the shop without the dress (situation resolved). Asked Preston if he'd be willing to keep an eye/ear on Eric while he slept so we could go out for a date night. While we were out we ran into one of the couples at one of the clubs and had a great time. Was nice to be out and about town with my sexy husband.
Monday was a hang at the dorm kind of day. Hang out at the dorm for a while and get a call to head over to the apartment complex of one of Josh's buddies cause they have a community pool and we can all hang out. We get there, only there about half an hour and the other two couples totally bail on us and tell us to call them then they don't answer phones or their front door. We head back to the dorm have dinner with Josh's roommate Preston and just hang out.
Tuesday I have a chance to hit the school bookstore and buy a shirt for myself and a shirt for my mom before Josh heads to class. Thankfully he only had morning classes and we were able to spend the afternoon together hanging out and I was able to go to one of the local nail salons and get my nails done. The person who worked on my nails tore my fingers up and didn't clean up the areas where I had lifting. Just pissed me off didn't give him much of a tip and it cost me $25 to get the work done where as here at home for a fill and repair it would have cost me $20 and the job would have been done correctly. Snuck in some ColdStone Creamery while I was down there as well. Josh is located in a great area, right up the road from him is Walgreens, Publix, Blockbuster, chinese food, italian food, Subway, Starbucks, a dentist office, and a decent size hospital. What I need to check on in the area is a public park/play area for Eric.
Life is truly good and God has truly blessed us that we are able to be in two separate living spaces and make all our bills and not have to worry about being so excessively in debit that we will be paying off loans for the next 30 or 40 years.
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